Article By Ashley Williams Miller
So I get the question all the time.. Why are you still single? Hmmmm as sad as it is to say.. the majority of the men that are approaching me are not on my level. By that I mean, they either have a good job and live at home or my fav "my man's and them." or vice versa.. Or you have a great job, nice house, nice car, and NO common sense.... Uhhh, NO... My ideal candidate as a man has to have Swagg and has to have his ish togetha..No exceptions...What is my def of swagg you say? You must have a strong personality.. I can't punk you or feel as though another man can. I have a strong personality and if you are content in who you are, you can hold me down. No exceptions. You have to keep me guessing about you in the same way I keep thoughts behind me chesire grin of mine Swagg also involves knowing who you are, and most importantly knowing who I am.. a woman.. and knowing how to treat me as such...Unlike most single Moms, the man that I need has to know that my kids are apart of the package, but that should not be your main focus in getting to know me.. They do have a father.
The secret that most men don't understand about women is that we love those "Thug" type men because we can't predict their movements..We don't know what they are thinking but we do know that when you are in their world, they will hold it down for you til the end. They have no problem with speaking what is on their minds and have no issues with sharing their inner feelings with you(more than likely when putting it down)..We like a man to have a sensitive side, but not to bite P.Diddy"No BitchAssNess Allowed". We need you when we want to talk, but that "Nice Guy" attitude all the time will more than likely get you nowhere with us.. maybe a couple of dinners when we have nothing else to do..Sorry..it's the truth...
However, being a grown up woman...err.. A classy chick.. I have learned to differentiate those that are content on staying on the grind(jobs)and laying good pipe vs those that can put on their Collar shirts(careers) from 9-5 and then kick on the Timbs when the day is over..... those are the ones that have wealth(savings, 401K, etc) not just rims and chains...
Those type of men are the ones I need....
It also truly amazes me that most guys only think about how soon they can get some head or get some pussy without even putting in the effort of getting to know me or my last name....I mean Really???? Are there that many nasty broads out there that give it up that freakin easily???!?!?
So, with that being said, for the time being, I am content on being single. I know my place. I know who I am.. I know where I am going.. but I can't and refuse to settle for you just because you bought me a drink, got my number, took me out to dinner or sent me flowers.. You gotta step it up. Show me your goals and how you are achieving them.Show me that you are worthy of having ME...and I will obviously see how lucky I am to have met you... I know you are out there...I will be waiting...
******If you are one of those nasty broads that are giving your ish up real easily without demanding respect or more from these lames... you are holding the rest of us back.... Grow up.******
